Sobriety and Recovery

Tell me about the cycle you’re caught up in…

You know it is wrong, but you still do it anyway.

You have tried to talk yourself out of it hundreds of times, but you keep going back. You have heard it from your family, friends, maybe even your boss. You are way past the idea that this will just go away on its own, or it’s no big deal.

“I know I shouldn’t… but I just can’t stop.”

You know you need counseling when you can’t move on from this need, and no matter who you talk to or what you try, you keep coming back to the same need.

There is so much shame when it comes to recovering. Therapy is a safe place to feel no shame and no judgment for what you have done in the past and the current struggles you have in the present.

You are in the right place when you find that you can’t ask for help from the people around you because they don’t trust you or believe you.

You need someone to believe in you, and I can do that.

I want to show that controlled substances or destructive behaviors do not define you. Your current or past circumstances do not define you.

Therapy builds connections and creates awareness in your life to make a change.

I know it’s hard…

You find yourself saying, “I am not the version of myself that I once was. I don’t even know this person sometimes.”

You can’t seem to get ahead, and no matter how hard you try, you always seem to be struggling. Stuck in a position where you only feel like you can give in to the need to feel a little bit better or feel any relief.

Trying to cope and do healthy and better things for you doesn’t work or feel the same, and you end up using or giving in to the need anyway.

You feel lost, and life isn’t where you want it. You don’t know how it got so off track, but you know it is and aren’t sure where to even begin to get back on track.

Most people think that you’re making a choice…

… or that there’s “more to the story.”

If someone were looking into your life from the outside with no back story or context, they would see a version of you right now that does not give a good picture of who you really are. They would maybe judge you and assume that you do not have direction in your life. They believe that you have no goals when you actually have tons of plans and want a direction. You are just not sure how to make those goals happen.

Others may assume that you have no awareness in life, that you are self-centered and thinking about how you benefit. But if they knew you, they would know how much you overthink everything you do, and with great anxiety, you worry about making the wrong decisions and everyone being disappointed in you. You have so much to offer and care a lot about things that matter to other people. There are just circumstances that have affected your life story, and not everyone may know or understand.

But there were millions of moments that came before you were labeled an “addict” – moments of withdrawal, loss of control, and the need to escape.

You are more than all this. I see you, and I can help…

First of all, I recognize that you’re coming to therapy for help – not to be shamed or given more guilt for your choices, behaviors, or feelings.

I have no assumptions. I have no expectations. I have no needs for you to meet for me. I am safe.

I am different from the others in your life because I have the special job of only focusing on helping you. I am not worried about you hurting my feelings or worried about you doing or saying the right thing, because when you come to therapy, it is the one place you don’t have to be “on” and fake it.

You can be honest.

In therapy, we’ll get to the bottom of how you got to this place.

One of the benefits of therapy is learning and understanding the “why.” So much of our lives are built on need and motivation, and we struggle to understand how we create particular needs and certain motivations. When you come to therapy, I can help you see and know how you came upon the place you find yourself. I pride myself on teaching you how to stop and helping you understand why you do it so that you don’t go back to it.

We need to be absolutely honest with each other in this space. So much of your struggle is saturated in lies and denial. Therapy can be a challenging but much-needed breath of fresh air – a place where you can be honest and address the real issues at hand.

You’re not a lost cause!

You can overcome this, and you can live the life that you wanted. We can get you back on track.

You ARE capable of change, and you’re worth it!

I’m here for you. Please, call today for your free consultation: (720) 767-0038.